This week I heard from a pastor who stated his church doesn’t have a men’s ministry. As I thought about the statement I began to wonder, ‘Can a church really not have a ministry to men?’ Or is it they don’t have a formal ministry? And if they don’t have a formal ministry, what are they telling the men that walks onto the campus of the church?
I have heard another pastor state we don’t need a formal organized men’s ministry, we just need to disciple our men. Okay… I believe I understand what this pastor was saying is that he doesn’t want a ministry built around events. I get that. Ministries to men should not be built around events. But how does your men know they are a priority and important in your church? There are many ways you can do this even with the current activities you have going on without creating new ones. But I will have to save that discussion for later.
The priority of the church is to make disciples. Jesus made that clear in Matthew 28:19-20. Therefore, this is the priority of any men’s ministry – to make disciples. Not to have events, though events does have its place in the ministry.
Events create entry points for men to connect with other men. Could be with men of similar interests or just men getting together. The key is connecting and developing relations with other men (though we men typically don’t use this terminology about becoming friends with other men). As men become friends with each other then we can encourage men to move into discipling relationships. Rather it is in a Sunday School class, Life Groups, Home Study Groups, or a small men’s groups.
So what happens when a church does not have a ‘formal men’s ministry’ or they say they don’t have a men’s ministry at all? Does this tell the men of the church they are not a priority? Is this why many men develop an attitude that church is for the women and children? Are we sending a message that it is okay to be influenced by the world? Will the men feel it unnecessary to attend a gathering of the saints? No one could probably say for sure; but, one thing though is for sure, if the men do not think they are important, then you will have a hard time reaching them.
Every man that walks onto the campus of a church should feel as though a priority is placed on the men. We have heard the statistics of how important it is to reach the men.
- If a child is the first in a household to come to Christ, there is a 3.5% probability everyone else in the household will.
- If the mother is the first to come to Christ, there is a 17% probability everyone else will follow.
- If the Man, Dad, Husband is first, there is a 93% probability everyone else will follow.
Henry Ford is quoted as saying;
“Your system is perfectly design to produce the results you are getting.”
To put this in churchy speak; a church’s ministry to men, regardless of the type, will produce the type of men attending the church or not attending church.
You do have one, rather it is recognized as one or not; organized or not. You are telling your men something. How do you want the men who walks on the campus of your church to feel? Think about this the next time you think about the men’s ministry of your church.
Together in the challenge and adventure to disciple men. – Mike