Two Are Better Than One: Conclusion

Two are better than oneThe past several posts we have been looking at Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, 12;

9Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their efforts.  10For if either falls, his companion can lift him up; but pity the one who falls without another to lift him up…. 12And if someone overpowers one person, two can resist him.  A cord of three strands is not easily broken. (CSB)

In this series using the above text as a guide, we talked about how men should be Working Together; Walking Together; and Watching Together as we go through life and live for Christ.  (Click on each topic to see the associated article).

In all of this we desire to help men understand the importance of discipling each other, pouring our lives into one another.  Paul helped us understand the importance of this when he told the Thessalonians in 1 Thessalonians 2:8;

“We cared so much for you that we were pleased to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own lives, because you had become dear to us.”

As we close out this series I want to leave with you three thoughts from those of us who work in ministering to men that we have found that every man needs:

  1. Men need something to give their lives to.

When we first began this series, I discuss the various activities men can be involved in to assist their communities and their local church.  There are many mission opportunities men can be involved with to reach out into the community to share the love of Christ.  Winning you the opportunity to share the gospel message with those who you are ministering to.  You need to be involved in mission work.  You need to be alongside other men to keep you focus and bring a greater return on your efforts.

  1. Someone to share it with.

Find someone who will walk alongside of you.  That will hold you accountable.  Us older men need to be making ourselves available to mentor younger men.  You may say – I don’t have anything to give.  I say – you will be surprise.  Some of you have 20, 30, 40, even 50 years of life experience and working in the church to share.  This is valuable experience to help a young man navigate the difficulties of this world.  I am encouraged when I see young men seeking older men to mentor them.  We need someone who we can talk with – pray with – that can be our confidant.  Someone who will hold our feet to the fire, so to speak.  Asking us the hard questions to insure we stay on the path and not stray.  I know of men in their 80s who still have men like this in their lives.

  1. A personal system that offers a reasonable explanation for why the first two are so difficult.

Every man, regardless of who you are, or where you are in your spiritual walk, need to be in a small men’s study group.  If you are in a Sunday School class with your wife that is great.  But what I am talking about here is meeting with another man, or two, or three, or more for the purpose of studying the bible and talking though how to apply God’s Word into your life as a man.  Men need other men to share their rewards and struggles with.  To help navigate this world we live in.  To insure we are living the life Christ wants us to live.

In the past couple of months, I discussed how men are WORKING TOGETHER as indicated in Ecclesiastes 4:9 so they can have a greater return on their labor as they minister to this lost and dying world.  We discussed the importance that every man should have someone in their life, so they are WALKING TOGETHER as encouraged in Ecclesiastes 4:10 of this spiritual journey we are on.  Helping us to be transformed into the image of Christ.  Then we discussed each man should have another to walk with them as spoken of in Ecclesiastes 4:12, so they can WATCH TOGETHER.  Watching out for each other to prevent one from falling into a pit.  And if they do fall, to help pull them out.

I hope this series has been helpful to you and I would enjoy hearing from you on your thoughts.

Together in the challenge and adventure to disciple men – Mike.

Two Are Better Than One: Watching Together

Two are better than oneFor the past few posts we have been looking at Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, 12.

9Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their efforts.  10For if either falls, his companion can lift him up; but pity the one who falls without another to lift him up…. 12And if someone overpowers one person, two can resist him.  A cord of three strands is not easily broken. (CSB)

In the first post regarding this scripture I shared with you this is a good description for men to apply Proverbs 27:17, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another” (ESV), into their lives to encouragement men as they develop an intentional relationship with God.

In previous posts we have looked at verse 9 encouraging men to work together; and verse 10, encouraging men to walk together.   This post we will look at verse 12 that gives an indication of our third action and that is men ought to be watching together or in the action of watchcare.  Watching out for each other as we work and walk together in our daily activities and spiritual growth.

Verse 12 of Ecclesiastes 4 states;

12if someone overpowers one person, two can resist him.  A cord of three strands is not easily broken.

Back in the day when Solomon wrote this, it was dangerous to travel alone.  They traveled in groups for fellowship and safety.  We can say the same in today’s culture.  It is dangerous out there.  The enemy is lurking around, waiting for the opportunity to trip us up.  To cause us to fall into that pit spoken of in verse 10.  And if you do not have someone walking alongside of you and watching with you – you can end up being a statistic of another brother who fell in a pit with no one to help pull you out.

But if you have someone to walk along side of you that we can confide in and who can encourage us as we navigate this world, you will have a better chance to resist anything the enemy may try to overpower you with.

As I read the New Testament, I see men ministering alongside other men.  Jesus sent the disciples out in twos (Luke 10:1).  The apostles had each other.  Paul had Barnabas and then Silas.  Barnabas had Paul and then Mark.  Paul poured his life into Timothy.  If these men who we like to put on a pedestal as examples of Christ Followers had men walking alongside of them, watching with them and providing accountability for their actions, what makes us think that we men don’t need this today?

When we meet with men in our discipleship groups we need to ask hard questions and we should expect hard questions to be asked of us.  Questions such as; “Have you read the Bible this week?  What did you read and what did God reveal to you?  How were you tempted this week and how did you respond?  How is it going with your wife?  Do you feel you are in the center of God’s will for your life?  What are you struggling with in secret?  Are your priorities in the right order?  Is the ‘visible you’ the ‘real you’ and are you consistent in your relationships?”

Hard questions.  Asking the hard questions is an accountability tool but it is also men showing brotherly love to other men – watching out for each other to ensure we do not allow ourselves to step off into a lifestyle that will hinder our relationship with God and with others.

Do you ask hard questions to the men you have relationships with?  Do you allow men to ask you hard questions?  If we are serious about sharpening each other as iron sharpens iron, then we will allow these questions to be asked.  We will allow other men to ‘call us out’ when we are moving in a direction with our life that will hinder our walk with God and our relationship with others.

The interesting idea about verse twelve is the use of a cord or rope.  As twine is woven to make a cord it becomes stronger as each twine is woven around and through another.  The more twine woven the stronger the cord becomes.  Thereby the verse says two may be able resist; but, three is not easily broken.

So, I encourage men to look for men who will ask these questions and others as necessary.  You will be amazed how this will help you to stay true to God’s word if you are honest with your answers.  Get in a group of two to three guys that holds you accountable and provide a watch care for you.

Next post will be the conclusion of this series.

Together in the challenge and adventure to disciple men – Mike.